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Young, Married, Sinful, and Saved… Enjoying God’s Grace

Random Pictures October 30, 2008

Filed under: 1 — Mike and Laura Icardi @ 9:07 pm

 

The den/guest room downstairs

 

The “Man Room” (I realize it’s not manly yet, but we’re working on it. The girly carpet is there so that the dog’s muddy paw prints won’t ruin the white carpet beneath)

 

Our cute, small backyard.

 

Mike laughing on a particularly silly night.

 

I was giggling uncontrollably because the dryer sheet was stuck to my leg. See Mike laughing in the background? Like I said, a particularly silly night…

 

It’s fall! Two days after this, the lawn was covered in leaves again.

 

Just one picture says so much: I’m wearing my Seminole t shirt because it was a game day. I chose the one with the state of Florida outline on it because I was missing home.

Then, I made the mistake of drinking caffeine late in the day and had a LOT of energy. Somehow I talked Mike into playing twister with me. He’s not bad!! (Ok, ok, he beat me like almost every game, but who’s counting?)

Then, energy still unburned, I wrestled the dog (who was very excited about the Twister game).

Apparently Virginia makes us silly.

 

I look crazed. Bailey looks scared. Thank you, caffeine. Thank you.

 

Fall! (This is right outside our house)

 

 

That’s all, folks!


 

 

 

Random Thoughts by Laura October 27, 2008

Filed under: 1 — Mike and Laura Icardi @ 10:49 pm

Some funny stories…

The other day, a pigeon flew directly at my face on my walk from the office to the metro station. I had to “hit the deck” in order to avoid what would have been, at the very least, a very embarrassing black eye story. I half expected to turn and see the pigeon, flying away, turn his head back, focus his beady eyes on me, and with his fore finger and middle finger, point to his eyes, point violently to mine, and then point back at his. *shudder*

 

 

This morning it was only in the 40’s, so I only donned a scarf and coat and went to work. Instead of the day heating up, the temperature dropped, and rain came. (This is where that new fangled IN-TAH-NET would have come in handy to check today’s weather forecast…). So, on my way from the office to the metro (why does everything funny happen on my way home??), I used my scarf, which is actually a pashmina, and wrapped it so it hooded my head, shielding me slightly from the frigid rain. I felt like I looked like a refugee (incidentally, later I saw myself in a reflection and I did, in fact, look like a refugee. Yup…). I was king of embarrassed to be walking among high level executives while the Capitol building looked at me with a smirk on its face. I walked swiftly down the road thinking “It’s keeping me dry(ish) and warm. I don’t care if I look dumb.” I still felt self-conscious… until… I passed a woman wearing 2 showers caps on her head. And no, she wasn’t homeless. So the “silliest looking pedestrian” award passes me up by a hair and goes to the shower cap lady. Thank you, shower cap lady. Thank you.

 

I have another story. (Lisa Brown, it is my very first “Kunze Story.” It’s been endorsed and everything.) BUT, alas, friends, it is not an appropriate topic for this male-female readership. If you ladies want to hear the story, email me. Or call. Ha! Who am I kidding? I don’t answer my phone, ever. Email me.

 

A Beautiful Sound

Funny stories aside, Mike and I went to a Hymn Sing at Covenant Life on Friday. Covenant Life Church (or CLC… yes, CB FLP friends, I almost always think of… say it with me… “Counselor Leadership Conference (CLC)”…but I digress) is in Gaithersburg, MD. Kind of far…but… It is the very first church we visited after moving up here. We had decided it was too far to reasonably get plugged in, but we found out they are planting a church in Arlington in 2009. So now we will start attending CLC regularly, and then move to the church plant next year. CLC is an amaaaazing church. It came highly recommended by our Pastors back home, and I can see why.

 

The Hymn Sing was wonderful. The worship pastor led us in song, teaching us some of the history and background behind each one and behind each author/composer. It was a really cool night of praising God and giving Him glory for how he moves in His people through music.

 

One song stuck out at me, and I want to share it here. I wish I could give you a recording…

 

First of all, there was an 8-person choir helping lead worship with a piano and a couple guitars. Most of the night, their voices blended with the rest of the congregation. But this time… 

 

The song was “And Can It Be (that I should gain)” – the song reveals the thoughts of a man who can barely believe that God has forgiven him and brought him freedom from sin and condemnation. Knowing his sin, and the depth of it, he is awed by God’s mercy. The first two verses talk about his wonder at God’s forgiveness and his own sin. He describes his lowly state. Then, in verse three, the writer paints a picture that is so powerful:

 

Long my imprisoned spirit lay, fast bound in sin and nature’s night;

thine eye diffused a quickening ray;

I woke, the dungeon flamed with light;

my chains fell off, my heart was free,

I rose, went forth, and followed thee.

 

(Chorus):

Amazing Love (Amazing love), How can it be? (How can it be?)

That thou my God shouldst die for me?

 

The worship pastor had us sing the first two verses quietly sitting down. Before we began singing, he asked us to stay seated through the third verse, standing at the point where it says “my chains fell off.” Up until that point, he encouraged us to imagine ourselves as the song says:

 

And can it be, that I should gain
An interest in the Saviour’s blood?
Died He for me, who caused His pain
For me, who Him to death pursued?
Amazing love! how can it be
That Thou, my God, shoulds’t die for me?

 

(Chorus)

 

He left His Father’s throne above,
So free, so infinite His grace,
Emptied Himself of all but love,
And bled for Adam’s helpless race:
‘Tis mercy all, immense and free;
For, O my God, it found out me!

 

(Chorus)

 

Then, in verse 3, after singing quietly while sitting, imagining ourselves as the writer of the song had imagined himself, a prisoner of sin, we stood and sang triumphantly as we sang “My chains fell off, my heart was free, I rose, went forth, and followed thee (chorus).”

 

As the congregation came to its feet, the music swelled. The choir, previously singing the melody in quiet unison, burst forth in victorious 4 part harmony and strength as they praised God for what he has done in our lives. Everyone in the room sang from heir heart, an offering to the Lord. Hands were raised up high, voices rang out, and as one body, we worshipped. We rejoiced! It was powerful. The Holy Spirit was present. I thanked God then for finally bringing Mike and me to a church that loves God and leads it people in such surrendered passion to God. 

 

I don’t know if that description gives you a glimpse of Friday night. It certainly can’t do it justice. But I’ll be singing that song on my own for a while, remembering the crescendo of voices and instruments. Sing it too, with me. Sing at home, in the car, in the shower. Turn off your radios, tvs, and ipods. Sing a great hymn of the faith. 

 

 

And finally, I must say something about…

On Abortion in the Political Race (Christians and Non-Christians, please read):

 

A common argument against overturning Roe v Wade is that we should not “legislate morality” or that Christians should “allow people to make their choices” and not “impose their religion” on a nation. Here are my thoughts:

 

I agree that we should allow people to make their own mistakes and decisions. From a Christian perspective, we call this sin. Our Father gave us free will to do so, or else the incident in the Garden of Eden would never have taken place. Ultimately, he actually uses sin for His glory, which rocks.
 
But Scripture has never used free will or God’s proclivity to use sin for good as an excuse to avoid consequences or punishment. He allowed Jonah to run from His commandment, but what happened to Jonah? A big, fat fish swallowed him as a consequence to his sin. And what of sinners in the New Testament? Ananaius and Saphira were killed due to their selfishness and deceit. Did God allow these people to sin? Yes. And, in the case of Ananaius and Saphira, it was LAW they broke. You see, God commands us to not only live righteous lives through faith in Him, but to call others to righteousness in three ways:
  • Holy living (examples of “right”)
  • Prayer – for others and ourselves (power and strength to do “right”)
  • Laws of the land (enforcement of “right”)

 

*PS – none of the above is possible without the justifying and sanctifying mercy and grace poured out on us by God through the death of Jesus Christ. Just had to say that…

 

It is not small-minded to “impose” a law which happens to agree with our Faith. We are not mandating people to worship our God. We are not forcing them to be baptised. However, if you are a Christian and are truly “anti-abortion” (IE, you believe abortion is murder), then you should support the same laws and sanctions on abortion as there are on other “moral crimes” (like murder, rape, etc). I know that a woman wants to retain her right to “her own body,” but the government isn’t making her DO anything – just REFRAIN from doing something.
 
What if a man raped a child? Is he not allowed to do what he wants with HIS body? Of course not!
 
We all have liberty up until the point where that liberty infringes on the rights, liberties, and life of another – as abortion does (just like murder or rape).
 
I beg you to pray and ask God how HE would stand on this issue. I know that God is pro-life, and I know He will not remain silent.

 

 

That’s all for tonight, friends. Sorry there are no fun pictures of us. We’ll work on that…

 

Ok, fine… here are two. Of me. Taken by Mike’s blackberry while inside LL Bean at the mall…

 

 

And, for anyone who read this far, you’re a true friend and won’t be annoyed by my excitement that….

I finally reached my goal weight! I did it! Hooray!!!! 

 

LOL October 24, 2008

Filed under: 1 — Mike and Laura Icardi @ 10:05 am

Props to Laura for sending me the email and I found the source – this is hilarious and eerily true.

http://www.culturejamforlife.com/nobama2008/images/obama_change.jpg

 

Randy Alcorn on Don Miller, Obama and Abortion October 22, 2008

Filed under: 1 — Mike and Laura Icardi @ 8:59 pm

This is from Randy Alcorn’s blog that touched on Donald Miller’s support of Obama and the heinous stance Obama takes on Abortion.  All text is copied from http://randyalcorn.blogspot.com/2008/10/not-cool-obamas-pro-abortion-stance.html.

 

Thursday, October 16, 2008

Not Cool: Obama’s Pro-abortion Stance, and Christians enabling him

A year and a half ago, when I first heard about Barack Obama, I got excited. I really wanted to support him. An evangelical Christian told me Obama was prolife. Ididn’t care that Obama was a Democrat. I wanted a pro-life, pro-environment, pro-racial equality president who took seriously our need to care for the poor and defend the needy.

Granted, I also wanted someone who wasn’t a New Age anti-industry activist with a “Meat is Murder” bumper sticker. I wanted someone who is committed to national defense, but knows when not to go on offense. I wanted someone who doesn’t hear every Douglas fir screaming when it’s cut down.

But, frankly, I relished the opportunity to show I wasn’t a lockstep Republican. I was, and still am, tired of the Pat Robertson sort of Republicanism that supportedproabortion-Republican-who-publicly-cheated-on-his-wife Rudy Giuliani because he’s the only guy who could beat Hillary. (This was a non-prophetic endorsement on too many levels to count.)

That Barack Obama is an African-American was a real plus to me, and not for superficial reasons. I believed it could help further the vision of Martin Luther King in my favorite speech of the modern era, in which he said, “I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character.” I get tears in my eyes just hearing that speech in my head.

I knew from the first time I heard him speak that Obama was cool. And if the candidate I supported, for reasons of substance, also happened to be cool, that would be a nice plus. I coach high school tennis, and I like it when the kids like me. And hey, my generation invented the word cool! (Of course it also invented the wordgroovy, but….).

Then the sad day came. I checked out Obama’s actual position on abortion and I was demoralized. I found that in every single vote related to the issue he’s favored abortion, its legality and even the killing of children who survive abortion.

But Obama is savvy. He wants to attract young voters, including young evangelical Christians who are sort-of-prolife. He knows to say that he favors reducing or limiting abortions. Which is like limiting rather than criminalizing murder and rape and kidnapping and slavery. A candidate could say “I’m personally opposed to rape,” while he has a 100% voting record favoring the legality of rape. And he could say he favors limiting or reducing the number of rapes. But if he actually supports the legality of the hideous crime of rape, discerning people would see through his rhetoric of rape-reduction.

When I discovered Obama was an all-out defender of legalized child-killing, I was disappointed beyond words. And I knew that in the next election, I was not going to get to be cool.

Well, here we are, and I have been asked what I think about the evangelical brothers and sisters who support Obama despite his uncompromising pro-choice stance. I have specifically been asked about Don Miller, author of Blue Like Jazz, because Don prayed at the Democratic Convention and has been widely quoted as a supporter of Obama.

On a previous blog I wrote about Obama and McCain, Leanne left in her comment a link to an interview with Don Miller, concerning his support for Barack Obama. (I’m glad she did.) I recommend that you hear directly from Don, who is prolife. Perhaps you should read that interview now so you really hear what he’s saying.

I have hesitated to say anything publicly, but there’s so much conversation that has been generated by Don’s endorsement of Obama, I think I need to. By the way, as soon as I post this, I’m going to send a link to this blog to Don to tell him if he wants to respond I’ll publish anything he has to say in a follow-up blog. (This is the same morning I posted this blog, and I just got an email response from Don; I’ve just deleted a few things that he thought were unfair, though my overall thoughts remain the same.)

First, Don is a friend of mine, and a good brother. He is sharp, kind-hearted, interesting and genuinely funny. He is also sincere. I enjoy hanging out with him, though I don’t get to as much as I’d like, four times I think in the last couple of years. By the way, I was one of the pastors at (and am still part of) the church in the suburbs he went to, which he says in Blue Like Jazz was like “going to church at The GAP.” I got a good laugh out of that and many other things he said.

A while ago, Don and I had coffee (something we’re one on) and talked about things mostly that we agreed about, and some on which we disagreed. You can disagree and still be friends and brothers and Christ-followers, you know.

Don and I agreed that day at Starbucks that many Republican Christians have been used by the Republican Party. We agree that there are other important issues besides abortion and homosexual marriage. (Again, I repeat, Don is not proabortion, he is prolife; he says he has stated his disagreement with Obama on this issue, and I believe him.) Among those common concerns we have are racial justice and concern for the poor, and stewarding the environment. Of course, not all with the same concerns agree on which programs and policies are, in the long run, most helpful in furthering these righteous causes.

Don and I agreed that day that Christians should be first and foremost followers of Jesus, not political parties.

I went on record long ago as being unwilling to vote for a Republican nominee if he was not willing to stand up for the right to life of innocent children. (Don tells me that he too doesn’t always vote with his party.) The prolife statement in the Republican platform is probably the most God-honoring thing it says, and if there’s a Republican politician who doesn’t hold to it, as Senator Bob Packwood didn’t here in Oregon, there is no way I’ll ever vote for him. Packwood never got my vote even though some Christian Republicans told me I should support him because he was conservative, at least until he was exposed for his sexual conduct. (Click here to compare what the Republican and Democratic Party platforms have to say about abortion.)

John McCain wasn’t my first choice for president. But at least McCain’s a hero, he suffered for his country and fellow soldiers. And at least he thinks innocent childrenshouldn’t be slaughtered, and has consistently voted that way. And he’s chosen a running mate who not only professes to be prolife but lived it out by valuing a precious Down Syndrome child that 80% of people would have aborted. McCain andPalin are far from perfect. But I believe they would honestly stick up for the most oppressed and violated people group in this nation, unborn children.

Of course, these days it’s especially not cool to support a Republican, even if he would defend innocent children, because Republicans are part of the party of George Bush, someone who is hated by cool people. (Nobody mentions that the Republican Party was the party of Lincoln, that opposed slavery; they were hated for that too.)

I am deeply concerned about the one, two or possibly three Supreme Court justices to be appointed in the next presidential term. If you listen to the candidates, it’s obvious that McCain/Palin would make a concerted effort to choose justices likely to reverse Roe v. Wade and it is equally obvious that Obama/Biden would choose justices most likely to uphold Roe v. Wade.

So, does God care about who his children vote for? In many cases, with not much difference between them, I doubt it. But here’s what he says about the needy and afflicted who have no one to help them and are on the brink of death:

“For God will deliver the needy who cry out, the afflicted who have no one to help. He will take pity on the weak and the needy and save the needy from death. He will rescue them from oppression and violence, for precious is their blood in his sight.” (Psalm 72:12-14)

The blood of weak and needy unborn children is precious in God’s sight. Please don’t tell me abortion isn’t the only issue. Of course it isn’t. Treatment of the Jewswasn’t the only issue in 1940 Germany. Buying, selling and owning black peoplewasn’t the only issue in the United States of 1850. Nonetheless, both were the dominant moral issues of their day. Make no mistake about it. In our own day if we support a candidate who defends abortion, who is dedicated to that cause, we are supporting the killing of children. Yes, even if he’s the coolest candidate to come along in decades.

We will stand before the judgment seat of Christ for our decisions, and a vote is a decision in which we assume responsibility for the known beliefs and moral positions of the candidate.

This is not speculation, it is not a spin, it is demonstrable fact: Barack Obama IS committed to continuing the legalized killing of unborn children in this country.

Some Christians claim otherwise. But in his July 17, 2007 speech to the Planned Parenthood Action Fund Obama said,

“We know that a woman’s right to make a decision about how many children she wants to have and when— without government interference—is one of the most fundamental freedoms we have in this country. . . . I have worked on this issue for decades now. I put Roe at the center of my lesson plan on reproductive freedom when I taught constitutional law. . . So, you know where I stand. . . The first thing I’d do as president is sign the Freedom of Choice Act. That’s the first thing that I’d do.”

If you don’t know about the Freedom of Choice Act, it was written by the most radical proabortion activists because they saw informed consent and parental consent laws being passed at the state level. They wanted something powerful that would dismantle anything that could serve to reduce abortions through requiring that people be told the truth before an abortion or before their sixteen year old, who can’t be given an aspirin without their permission, can have an abortion.

Planned Parenthood is the largest abortion provider in America. Obama standing in front of them and promising he’s 100% on their side is the equivalent of a presidential candidate 160 years ago addressing an assembly of the owners of the slave ships, and saying, “If you elect me, the first thing I will do is sign an act that will insure slaves won’t be freed, and that nullifies any and all voter-approved state legislation that restricts slavery.” (And sadly, yes, even hearing this, some Christians would have campaigned for and voted for him.)

Now, “first thing” means first thing, right? So before helping the poor and protecting the environment and addressing the economy and national defense, what is President Obama going do? He’s going to assure that abortion stays legal and that the numbers are NOT reduced, by signing an act that will devastate decades of work at the state level by the prolife movement. Requirements of parental notification and informed consent and bans on partial birth abortions? History, if Obama has his way.

When Obama made this promise, he was either lying or telling the truth. If he was lying, he has a serious character problem. If we can’t trust him to do this, why trust him to follow through on any other promise, including those for which evangelicals are supporting him?

Ironically, however, if Obama was not lying, then he has a far worse character problem. Why? Because he is committing himself to oppose the rights of unborn children to live. I would rather he be a liar than that he be the defender of the killing of weak and vulnerable children, the orphans and fatherless.

I think he is sincere and likable, but on this matter, a matter of enormous significance, it is no exaggeration to say he is standing in defiance of the Creator. (A Creator whose blessing we should not dare ask if we defend the legalized killing of the children He creates.)

It is certainly a bad thing to promise something good, then not carry out your promise, as some Republican politicians have done in the prolife arena. (But though I don’t always agree with him, George Bush—dare I even bring up his name?—did appoint two Supreme Court judges who have shown a respect for prolife issues.)

But it is even worse to promise something bad, something that is in fact evil—the furthering of the shedding of innocent blood—and then keep your promise.

We may want to show the world that we Christians are cool enough to support the coolest political candidate who’s come along in decades. I really wanted to. But I just can’t get past child-killing. That’s a price for coolness that’s just too high.

If you want to hear directly from the candidates about their positions on the shedding of the innocent blood of the unborn, check out these interviews with Rick Warren at Saddleback Church. 

(Videos removed from post)

“Do not give any of your children to be sacrificed to Molech, for you must not profane the name of your God. I am the LORD.” (Leviticus 18:21)

“Do this so that innocent blood will not be shed in your land, which the LORD your God is giving you as your inheritance, and so that you will not be guilty of bloodshed.” (Deuteronomy 19:10)

“Therefore as surely as I live, declares the Sovereign LORD, I will give you over to bloodshed and it will pursue you. Since you did not hate bloodshed, bloodshed will pursue you.” (Ezekiel 35:6)

Shedding innocent blood? Not cool.

Supporting and voting for those committed to the legalized shedding of innocent blood? You tell me.

 

There’s only one October (…per year) October 13, 2008

Filed under: 1 — Mike and Laura Icardi @ 2:48 pm

Our friend Adam suggested we take a day trip on Saturday to the Shenandoah Valley to see the fall leaves and tour historic downtown Winchester. It was about an hour and a half away. We visited two fall festivals (one had a pick your own apple thing and another had a wine tasting); visited a very old graveyard where Adam thinks some of his ancestors are buried; and took a scenic drive down Skyline Drive, which delivers splendid views of the Blue Ridge, the Appalachian Mountains, and of course the Valley. We finished the night at a corn maize in the dark.

 

The day was spent eating and drinking (a diet of: Virginia ham sandwich, apple cider doughnut, pumpkin spice doughnut, BBQ sandwich, wine (tastings!), Starbucks, hot dog, apple cider, hot chocolate), being merry, and seeing many pretty things. It was nice to get out of the city, slow down, breathe fresh, crisp, clean air, and get some perspective. It’s fun being big city “folk” but we have a new appreciation for getting back down to earth and getting quiet. Quiet, except for uncontrollable laughter, which the day was also full of!

 

It was a beautiful day! I’ll let the (many, many) pictures tell the story…

This was our first view of mountains

The orchard where we picked our own apples

 

 

 

 

 

I love how Mike and Adam are looking at each other here… Up to no good…

 

 


These pictures are all in the orchard

 

 

These apples were hanging on branches so heavily, they looked like grape vines. It was really pretty!

 

Apple crates

 

The view from the orchard

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

These are the apples we picked – some granny smith (which we used to make cobbler on Sunday), some fugi, crispins, golden delicious, and some other kinds.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This street might be named after one of Adam’s ancestors!

 

 

 

There were tons

of beautiful churches

in the

downtown historic Winchester area.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This home was built in 1785!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Historic downtown and a garnet and gold autumn tree!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This is the graveyard where some of Adam’s ancestors might be buried. It’s also the Stonewall Confederate Cemetery! 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Adam, looking for family names on headstones…. …. …. …. Mike, sitting on a bench looking handsome.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

A sobering picture of infant headstones… children died so young back then… And a Captain in Stonewall’s Brigade! Wow!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

We walked by the McCain/Palin Victory office, so we stopped by to say hi to the volunteers and the cardboard candidates…

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Some views from Skyline Drive; the one on the left has a woman in it in red, and she looked so striking against the mountainous backdrop.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I’m pretty sure Adam’s trying to throw Mike off the mountain here… But then he took a picture of us, so I forgive him.

 


 

Photo #1: I wanted to pretend like we’re falling off the edge, but Mike decided to be gangsta…

Photo #2: I’m “falling” and Mike is sad.

Photo #3: Mike almost knocked me off, so I’m giving him a hard time.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Look at the monarch (on the right)!

 

 

Now, on the corn maize (IE “maze” – get it? Yeah, it’s CORNy, I know…)

Hey – I didn’t make all that up! They did!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

See? CORNundrum? Really? Oh yes, my friends. Oh yes.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The dark and scary corn maize on the left, and the dark, scary, and creepy Adam on the right, cuddling with my husband…

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

That’s Adam, Mike and me, and Kerisa, a girl who goes to church with Adam. Oh, and that’s Adam “eating” some corn. I guess he got hungry!

 

 

Now to explain the next series, you have to know what happened shortly after entering the maze. See, while waiting in line to get our tickets, we were behind a high school cross-country team (mostly girls). The frequency, pitch, and decibel level of their voices was unbelievable. We heard so many “OMG”s and “like”s and “totally”s that we lost a few brain cells. Once we were in the maze, we were wandering through, not following any clue, trying to get lost. We partly wanted to get away from the 40 teenagers, an partly thought it would be more fun to get lost.

 

So, without any warning, we heard rustling in the corn – someone was in the corn and not on the trail. Adam, thinking fast and figuring it had to be some teenagers “cheating” their way through the maze, waited until the exact second that they emerged when he jumped at them yelling, “ARRRRGGGHHHH!” and waving his hands like a crazy man. Their screams broke the glass on all houses within a 5 mile radius. The were good sports, scampering away giggling. We laughed so hard and decided we wanted our new mission to be to see how many people we could scare. The next few pictures are of Mike and Adam hiding in the corn and “practicing” their jumping out.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

That’s Adam, as he sticks his landing. On the right is Mike. He’s actually mid-leap but he mostly just looks like a really bad stalker, or gorilla or something. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Can you find the men in the corn??

 

 

 

Yeah, we weren’t having ANY fun at all…

 

 

 

 

 

<– Stoic Mike.

 

Happy Mike. –>

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Aaaaand… quote of the day:

Laura, to Mike: I love you.

Mike: Man, people around here sure do love their vinyl siding.

 

Happy Autumn!

 

Let’s Do Some Homework October 9, 2008

Filed under: 1 — Mike and Laura Icardi @ 8:55 am

Since they didn’t touch on ANY social/domestic policies in the debate, I hope that we are all educated.  I stumbled on this article posted on facebook and think it’s important to consider.

Why I Can’t Vote For Obama

http://www.sermonzone.com/blog/2008/09/23/why-i-a-black-man-cant-vote-for-obama/

By Huntley Brown
Dear Friends,
 A  few months ago I was asked for my perspective on Obama, I sent out an email with a few points. With the election just around the corner I decided to complete my perspective. Those of you on my e-list have seen some of this before but it’s worth repeating..

First I must say whoever wins the election will have my prayer support. Obama needs to be commended for his accomplishments but I need to explain why  I will not be voting for him.

Many of my friends process their identity through their blackness.

I process my identity through Christ. Being a Christian (a Christ follower) means He leads I follow. I can’t dictate the terms He does because  He is the leader. I can’t vote black because I am black, I have to vote Christian because that’s who I am. Christian first, black second.  Neither should anyone from the other ethnic groups vote because of ethnicity. 200 years from now I won’t be asked if I was black or white. I will be asked if I knew Jesus and accepted Him as Lord and Savior.

In an election there are many issues to consider but when a society gets abortion, same-sex marriage, embryonic stem-cell research, human cloning, to name a few, wrong, economic concerns will soon not matter.

We need to follow Martin Luther King’s words, “Don’t judge someone by the color of their skin but by the content of their character.” I don’t know Obama so all I can go off is his voting record.

His voting record earned him the title of the most liberal senator in the US Senate in 2007. NATIONAL JOURNAL: Obama: Most Liberal Senator in 2007 (01/31/2008)

To beat Ted Kennedy and Hilary Clinton as t he most liberal senator, takes some doing.

Obama accomplished this feat in 2 short years. I wonder what would happen to America if he had four years to work with.

There is a reason planned parenthood gives him a 100 % rating.
There is a reason the homosexual community supports him.
There is a reason Ahmadinejad, Chavez, Castro, Hamas etc. love him.
There is a reason he said he would nominate liberal judges to the Supreme Court.
There is a reason he voted against the infanticide bill.
There is a reason he voted No on the constitutional ban of same-sex marriage.
There is a reason he voted No on banning partial birth abortion.
There is a reason he voted No on confirming Justices Roberts and Alito. These two judges are conservatives and they have since overturned partial birth abortion. The same practice Obama wanted to continue.

Lets take a look at the practice he wanted to continue.

The 5 Step Partial Birth Abortion procedure

A. Guided by ultrasound, the abortionist grabs the baby’s leg with forceps. (Remember this is a live baby)

B. The baby’s leg is pulled out into the birth canal.

C. The abortionist delivers the baby’s entire body, except for the head.

D. The abortionist jams scissors into the baby’s skull. The scissors are then opened to enlarge the hole.

E. The scissors are removed and a suction catheter is inserted. The child’s brains are sucked out, causing the skull to collapse. The dead baby is then removed.

God help him.

There is a reason Obama opposed the parental notification law. Think about this: you can’t give a kid an aspirin without parental notification but that same kid can have an abortion without parental notification. This is insane.

There is a reason he went to Jeremiah Wright’s church for 20 years. Obama tells us he has good judgment but he sat under Jeremiah Wright teaching for 20 years. Now he is condemning Wright’s sermons. I wonder why now? Obama said Jeremiah Wright led him to the Lord and discipled him. A disciple is one in training. Jesus told us in Matthew 28:19 – 20 ‘Go and make disciples of all nations.’ This means reproduce yourself. Teach people to think like you, walk like you, talk like you believe what you believe etc. The question I have is what did Jeremiah Wright teach him?

Would you support a White President who went to a church which has tenets that said they have a:

1. Commitment to the White Community
2. Commitment to the White Family
3. Adherence to the White Work Ethic
4. Pledge to make the fruits of all developing and acquired skills available to the White Community
5. Pledge to Allocate Regularly, a Portion of Personal Resources for Strengthening and Supporting White Institutions
6. Pledge allegiance to all White leadership who espouse and embrace the White Value System
7. Personal commitment to embracement of the White Value System.

Would you support a President who went to a church like that?

Just change the word from white to black and you have the tenets of Obama’s former church.If President Bush was a member of a church like this, he would be called a racist. Jessie Jackson and Al Sharpton would have been marching outside. This kind of church is a racist church. Obama did not wake up after 20 years and just discovered he went to a racist church.  The church can’t be about race. Jesus did not come for any particular race. He came for the whole world.

A church can’t have a value system based on race. The churches value system has to be based on biblical mandate. It does not matter if its a white church or a black church it’s still wrong.  Anyone from either race that attends a church like this would never get my vote.

Obama’s former Pastor Jeremiah Wright is a disciple of liberal theologian James Cone, author of the 1970 book A Black Theology of Liberation.Cone once wrote: ‘Black theology refuses to accept a God who is not identified totally with the goals of the black community. If God is not for us and against white people, then he is a murderer, and we had better kill him. Cone is the man Obama’s mentor looks up to. Does Obama believe this?

So what does all this mean for the nation?

In the past when the Lord brought someone with the beliefs of Obama to lead a nation it meant one thing – judgment.

Read 1 Samuel 8  when Israel asked for a king. First God says in 1 Samuel 1:9 ‘Now listen to them; but warn them solemnly and let them know what the king who will reign over them will do.’

Then God says: 1 Samuel 1:18 ‘ When that day comes, you will cry out for relief from the king you have chosen, and the LORD will not answer you in that day.’ 19 But the people refused to listen to Samuel. ‘No!’ they said. ‘We want a king over us. 20 Then we will be like all the other nations, with a king to lead us and to go out before us and fight our battles.’  21 When Samuel heard all that the people said, he repeated it before the LORD. 22 The LORD answered, ‘Listen to them and give them a king.’

Here is what we know for sure.

God is not schizophrenic

He would not tell one person to vote for Obama and one to vote for McCain. As the scripture says, a city divided against itself cannot stand, so obviously many people are not hearing from God.

Maybe I am the one not hearing but I know God does not changeand Obama contradicts many things I read in scripture so I doubt it.

For all my friends who are voting for Obama can you really look God in the face and say; Father based on your word, I am voting for Obama even though I know he will continue the genocidal practice of partial birth abortion. He might have to nominate three or four supreme court justices, and I am sure he will be nominating liberal judges who will be making laws that are against you. I also know he will continue to push for homosexual rights, even though you destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah for this. I know I can look the other way because of the economy.

I could not see Jesus agreeing with many of Obama’s positions. Finally I have two questions for all my liberal friends.

Since we know someone’s value system has to be placed on the nation,

1. Whose value system should be placed on the nation.

2.  Who should determine that this is the right value system for the nation?

Blessings,
Huntley Brown

Unfortunately with the economy crashing, issues like these quickly take a back seat – we can’t let that happen.  I like what Brown said when he indicated that if we can’t get the important issues right, what else really matters…?  We have to consider this.

Let’s be educated, let’s know how the candidates stack up and let’s consider things according to what the “kingdom priorities” are.  God values the Sanctity of Life and of the Family, period.  We’re told that there will be perilous times, but God is there, always.  At the first rough moment or uncomfortable time where we have to stop going to Starbucks or eating out as much or driving mindlessly, let’s not turn to the government to save us.  We should take individual responsibility for our actions and for ensuring that someone with such blatantly wrong views of society is not allowed to run the country.

Go to Obama’s web site and read his policies, and then tell me how he’s not planning on leading us to socialism, wealth redistribution and government control over our lives.

 

You Learn Something New Every Day… October 4, 2008

Filed under: 1 — Mike and Laura Icardi @ 8:59 pm

From Wikipedia:

 

Rickrolling is an Internet meme involving the music video for the 1987 Rick Astley song “Never Gonna Give You Up“. The meme is a bait and switch: a person provides a Web link they claim is relevant to the topic at hand, but the link actually takes the user to the Astley video… When a person clicks on the link given and is led to the web page he/she is said to have been “Rickrolled”.

 

I got rickrolled today when I tried clicking on a link to watch the Tina Fey/Sarah Palin & Amy Poehller/Hillary Clinton SNL sketch on Youtube. I was confused when an 80’s-tastic guy came onscreen singing a tortured love ballad. The comments below the video clued me in, and I researched it with Google.

See? I learned something today. Maybe nothing of value, but… it was fun. Here’s the link that “got” me:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jV4r7SDab4I&feature=related

 

Here’s the link I wanted:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FdDqSvJ6aHc&feature=related

 

Aaaaaand…. The corner of my living room smells like cat pee. I found the source: the wall. It’s as though the paint itself has been infused with the delicate fragrance of cat urine.

 

I decided to clean it with bleach water. As soon as I sprayed the wall, yellow splotches appeared where, I assume, the previous tenant (the owner, also our landlord) allowed her cat to baptize the wall and LEAVE it. I hadn’t smelled this before because I usally sit on the left side of the couch, far away from the smell. Mike never mentioned it to me, because he thought it was the Glade Plugin I had bought. Sensitive husband…

 

Here’s hoping our living room will stop smelling like cat urine, bleach, or bleached cat urine. 

 

 

I’ve gone crazy October 4, 2008

Filed under: 1 — Mike and Laura Icardi @ 1:49 pm

The email I just sent to Publix online:

 

My husband and I just moved from Florida to Virginia – the dark, Publix-less land. I want you to know how much we miss Publix. We took it for granted before. Now we have to choose between poor service or gross stores with Giant and Safeway as our main grocery choices here (sometimes we get poor service AND unclean stores – wahoo!). The Publix we went to in Tallahassee, and every Publix I’ve been to (but the one near us, #01051 was the best) was always clean, the employees knew my face if not my name, and everyone was friendly, professional, and helpful. I just got back from a trip to “Giant” where I had the worst experience – the third of its kind at that same store. At that store, I have been ignored, looked at weird because I am speaking English, and treated overall badly. Additionally, their selection stinks, whereas Publix carried everything I needed and more. If you decide to expand to Falls Church, Virginia, I will volunteer to help in any way I can! I miss Publix. :-(

 

Yep, they’re gonna think I’m a freak. A big, Publix-loving freak.

 

Ramblings October 3, 2008

Filed under: 1 — Mike and Laura Icardi @ 10:30 pm

I haven’t written in awhile so I figure I’ll make another cameo appearance.  It’s 9:15 p.m. and my wonderful wife is asleep on the couch already, we are such terribly exciting people. I’m not going to complain though, Boston is about to come on and hopefully they can open 2-0 vs. LA.  Here are some things that have been going on or thoughts that have been cultivating

  • Work is great.  I get to go to Vegas in a month for a two night trip.  Well, technically the trip is to Clark County, NV. But for those government people who are traveling with us, it doesn’t look so good to say, yeah, I’m going to Las Vegas…for business…right…I’m excited because I’m interested in visiting for a short time just so I can say I’ve been and see what it’s about.  It’s even better because Laura wants nothing to do with the city and it’s a business expense so no personal money.
  • We just got a HUGE contract at work for the next year, like multi-million dollar.  The project entails working with 10 major metropolitan areas: Seattle, Houston, Bay Area, LA, Honolulu, DC, Norfolk, Boston, New York, New Jersey/Newark and doing regional catastrophic planning.  It’s what I love doing and will entail some awesome travel.
  • Apparently everyone I work with is a major liberal.  We had an office lunch today and the entire time was spent ripping VP candidate Palin and belittling her as a person.  The comment was made, “she’s even dumber than Bush”.  I wisely ate my food and didn’t get involved.  I really didn’t feel like taking on a dozen other people.  That and should McCain and Palin win, putting up a large sign in my cube will be far better than any debate we could have now.
  • This who bailout thing doesn’t make a lot of sense to me.  I consider myself fairly educated, but I’ll admit my ignorance here.  I know I should be better informed, but it all seems so unclear.
  • Laura and I have been reading through Dave Ramsey’s financial peace, revisited book.  I consider myself well-schooled financially and fairly wise, but decided that his advice had worked for a number of people and you can always learn – so we’re reading it together.  One of the things that has stood out to me is that he discusses how our generation, mine and the one right before, or halfway, I’d say the 20-30ish crowd, want to live lives that reflect how our parents are living.  And he emphasizes how irresponsible this is. Think about it, our parents have been working for 20+ years to have a house, cars, retirement and good way of living. We want to live at that level and have those things now.  We aren’t patient, we comprise good financial decisions for immediate pleasure and end up in bad situations.  Think about the mortgage crisis, people wanted to buy houses, but weren’t in a position to pay for it.  Laura and I would love to be living in a house, but it makes more sense for us to rent right now. 
  • The only I do know is I’ve had a number of ideas for books and I’ll discuss them here.
    • Social Welfare and the Church – I despise the amount of money we give to the government and the number of services they provide.  The large number of these welfare programs are blatantly unconstitutional.  Show me where legally the government should have to pay for unemployment, education, welfare, etc., I challenge you to find it in the Constitution.   That being said, I understand that there are two things that have to be considered.  First, why did the government have to step in?  Second, what would the country do if all of these people were without support.  I’ll answer both.  The government had to step in because the church has fundamentally failed its responsibility.  If you look at the Old Testament community-orientated style and the New Testament direction to care for the widows and elderly, we can see the responsibility.  I’m not going to make my whole case here, but we’ve failed.  Now, what are we going to do about it?  Most churches already struggle to make ends meet and have to repeatedly preach on the importance of tithing and discipline in personal budgets.  I see a two-fold aspect to this.  First, people need to give more, and more faithfully.  God’s work should be the first priority, period.  Second, as the church receives more funding it should be utilizing it to reach out to the community and replace the government services (See McLean Bible Church for a good example).  As the Church replaces government services, taxes can be reduced or tax credits issued for charitable giving.  This progression will be lengthy and answers the 2nd of my initial discussions.  That’s the synopsis, I want to expand it and would love to write it in the next couple of years.
    • Personal Responsibility – I’m tired of hearing excuses.  Take responsibility for yourself.  As I said before I don’t know much about this economic crisis and bailout (Editorial note – BoSox up 4-0, heck ya!).  I do know that part of it begun due to ARM mortgages (Adjustable Rate Mortgages).  I’ve heard that there are predatory lenders, and I’m sure there are.  And I’m sure that there are people who are talked into getting mortgages for the maximum amount possible, when it’s not wise.  (When we moved to VA our realtor who found our rental townhouse told us we could be approved for a 400-500k house, we laughed at him, to his face.  Seriously?  That’s absurd)  But what I don’t understand is why ANYONE would take a stalk of 50+ papers (I’ve heard hand cramps happen during closings), not read the terms, and just sign away their life for hundreds of thousand dollars.  Read the documents!  This is just one area.  I think the issue of personal responsibility relating to welfare, education, etc. peeve me more, but the economy is “hot” right now. (Also, my discussion of Ramsey applies here)
    • Instant Gratification – This ties into personal responsibility and the Ramsey discussion, but deserves it’s own topic, I think. We as a society have developed into a want it, have it now culture. We don’t take the time to make wise decisions and consider the long-term effects.  Look at the media and government.  Everyone wants the government to fix things now.  Politicians are roasted over the coals for not being able to fix institutional problems in 2 years, much less overnight.  People want immediate tax rebates, solutions and quick fixes to make the problem look better, at least the facade.  As consumers, if we don’t have the cash we want to pull out the credit card and buy it, even if it means we pay an ungodly interest rate, at least we have that new: toy, gameboy, tv, ipod, etc.  We have to “keep up with the Joneses”.  We see this in big ways and small, but the small ones add up.  I’ll admit, I enjoy Starbucks, it’s good coffee, for the most part.  But research has shown that Starbucks is often as much a status symbol as it is a caffeinated, hot beverage.  When you think about it, how many people can really afford spending $5 on a coffee drink.  Heck you can buy a lb of starbucks coffee for $10-12, half and half for $2 and sugar for $2 and be set for two weeks probably.  Think of the savings, but we like to hold the green and white cup, I like to hold it too.  People even make assumptions if you have the cup.  When I was finishing my Masters I came from work one afternoon and got a regular coffee to keep me awake in class.  As I walked in a random person asked me, how much did you spend on that, $5 for coffee?  I retorted that it was only $2 because it was just regular brewed, but either way.  Why can’t we brew our own coffee and save money – we see the green sign and just have to stop.  It’s bad when it becomes not just the coffee, but the other amenities offered – it adds up.  Think about Starbucks once a week and every other week you get something else, we’ll say $5 for the drink and $2 for the side.  52 weeks times 5 is $260, and 26 times 2 is $52.  We’ve spent $312 at Starbucks, for coffee, or $24 dollars a month. And that’s just for one person.  If Laura and I did that suddenly we’ve spent $50 per month at Starbucks, yikes.  I can’t imagine those that go with kids on a regular basis who all order a drink, it’s gotta be a huge hit of $20+ a trip.  Any way, we live in a society that can’t wait, won’t wait.  Let’s be wiser, consider long-term effects, needs and learn to live within what we have.
  • Who knows if I’ll ever be able to expand on one or all of those, but I’d love to some day write them, we’ll see – I expect all of you to buy them if I do write!
  • Finally, Laura called it, I denied it, and I doubt the feasibility of it.  What is it?  Just a little thing, a multi-year process, called a Ph.D.  Unfortunately George Washington University offers a Doctoral program in Emergency Management within their Risk Management/Engineering Program.  This approach to the field interests me greatly and I’d love to pursue the degree.  However, at this time my company doesn’t pay for education and we can’t spend that type of money.  But if the price were right, I’ve found my program and it’s one I think I’d be willing to kill myself to do.  There’s something about the thrill of stressing over an exam or writing a paper last minute that draws me in.  Plus Laura wants to be able to refer to me as Dr. Icardi.  Yeah, 4-7 years, thousands of dollars and hundreds of hours for a title…But it would give me complete flexibility in what I wanted to do for the rest of my life, who knows.

That is all, GO NOLES, BEAT MIAMI!

 

God. October 3, 2008

Filed under: 1 — Mike and Laura Icardi @ 8:10 am

I don’t have any pictures this time. Just some thoughts.


The time here in Virginia has been whirlwind-cool. Seriously. So much has “gone right” even from the beginning:


  • The timing: Mike was offered a job and start date that would allow us to move out of our townhouse in Tallahassee the very month our lease was up. We did not plan this at all. It just “happened.”
  • My job: I was offered two very competitive jobs up here in a time of great economic turmoil. Both offered me a substantial raise, and both offered great experiences. Ultimately, I am confident I chose the “right” one. I’m having fun.
  • Our new digs: I “randomly” found a realtor online – I saw a place I liked, clicked on “I want more info” and was assigned to Steve Fred with Coldwell Banker. Btw, anyone in the DC Metro area should use him. I gave him our criteria, which other realtors only laughed at (seriously, they thought it was “cute”):
    • Maximum of $1900/month rent (I know that sounds like a lot to our Florida friends, but it’s actually pretty low)
    • At LEAST 2 bedrooms, preferably 3
    • At LEAST 2 FULL bathrooms (other, extra, half bathrooms was fine)
    • Some kind of fenced-in yard for the puppy dog

Steve showed us tons of great options, and we found the one we live in now for LESS than $1900/month, with FOUR bedrooms, 2 full baths and 2 half baths, a fenced-in yard, and a great location. Seriously. When we told people around here what we got (and for how much), their mouths actually went slack-jaw.

  • The little things:
    • My work people were so supportive. I leaned heavily on the wisdom and encouragement of Jackie Gillie, my living diary. (*wink*).
    • Our best friends were supportive. No bitter abandonment cries from them – just promises to visit.
    • My mom even put aside her very strong sadness to give us the best “last supper” and last night possible.
    • Our church back home was very supportive, as Josh and Katie Hughes sat with Mike and I for over an hour and counseled us through our decision and prayed with us.
    • Mike’s best friend (and my very good friend, too), Adam Kincaid, lived just 2 miles from our town house here in Virginia. Now he lives 20 minutes away, but still close enough so Mike has his BFF nearby.
    • I have even been able to (re)furnish our entire town house for free, even gaining slight profits here and there. I used Craigslist.com, Freecycle, and a local LDS listserv forum to get: two new dressers (one with a mirror), a new couch, another new couch, a new loveseat, a kitchen table and chairs, a “couch” table (or hallway table), a queen bed and sheet set (frame, box spring, and mattress), a twin bed (frame, box spring, mattress), an Ikea wardrobe, and a coffee table. ALL for free (or, we sold what we had in place of it and broke even).
    • Mike and I have been able to pick up tennis again, because there are 8 courts just down the street from us.
    • I’ve learned the Metro and take it to work every day.
    • We’ve found cool (cheap or even free) things to do and see on the weekends, and have been busy even on week nights with baseball games, West Wing tours, and gala events.


But – if you’ve read this far, and I know most of you visit for the pictures – you should know that all of this… ALL of it… means nothing unless we view it as what it is: God’s provision for us.


Not because we earned it or deserve it, but because God is good and gracious to His children.


Mike and I have had a great time, but I would be lying if I said it hasn’t also been hard. Moving is expensive, and we went about a month with no income (it took a while for our new jobs to process payroll and my old company had a problem getting my last paycheck to me). It was (and is) tight for a while. But we saw God provide time and time again. My boss, Jim, has bought me Starbucks coffee a few times. A coupon came in the mail for a free pizza at a great local shop a mile away – no purchase necessary. It was a “Welcome to the Neighborhood” thing. The snack stand guy at the baseball game (for which our tickets were free) GAVE Mike and me our drinks for free. He said he loved his job and wanted to do that for us. God has provided for us abundantly more than we asked or imagined.


Ephesians 3:20-21  Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.


I’ve been discouraged lately because Mike and I have not found a church home. My faith is my most valued possession (more than my marriage, yes – but God doesn’t make me choose). And that possession is nurtured in the local church. Four Oaks was faithful in leading me and others in our walks with God, and I miss my Pastors so much. I especially miss my Fellowship Group very much, and the relationships that were fostered there.


But amidst this discouragement, Mike has been a Godly husband by reminding me of God’s goodness, faithfulness, provision, sovereignty, and love for us. I’ve been challenged to remember what I learned in my Women’s bible study this summer – that all we do is meant to bring glory to God and for us to ENJOY Him – not just blindly obey Him. God is most glorified in (or BY) us when we are most satisfied in Him.


I am not being “satisfied” when I wallow in self pity over not having found a local church home yet. God is faithful and He WILL provide that. But right now, I can bring Him glory even as we visit other churches, as Mike and I seek to grow in grace together at home during the week and as individuals each day, and in my attitude each moment. I’ve been convicted to give God glory for what He has done, for saving me and leading me and loving me and allowing me to walk with Him and talk with him daily.


I know this was long, but if you’ve read this far, may I encourage you to pray – right now – and give God glory for what He has done in your life. Thank Him, worship Him, and enjoy him. Forever.

Ok, I lied. Here’s a picture I found online that I liked.